My Best Friend Ghosted Me When I Came Out

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I fell deeply in love with Cecilia, my Pilates instructor, about seven years ago.  

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I was confused, compulsive, fumbling through the shadows to try to figure out what was going on with my body, my thoughts, and the heterosexual, mother-of-four life that I had laboriously built.   

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My four teenage children's father, Charles, who was my husband at the time, pushed me to explore my emotions.   

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He said, "I can be almost anything for you, Kat, but I can't be that if you need a girlfriend."   

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I came out of the closet after several excruciating months of introspection, couples therapy, sleepless nights, and emotional conversations with my closest friends.  

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I could not carry on with a life that felt so fake these days. Although it seemed obvious in retrospect that I had always been gay, my small-town, Catholic upbringing in the Midwest had prevented me from leading that kind of life.   

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Charles and I separated after 25 years of marriage, divided our possessions, and our four teenage children started spending two weeks at his house and two weeks at mine.  

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Despite our desire to handle things differently, our divorce turned acrimonious and violent.  

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